Sunday, January 26, 2014

Right Turns

We've all had them along the way. You are pretty sure you know where you are going, you have a plan (formal or in your head), and things are good. And then life gets in the way and we're faced with a new piece of information that is like a sharp right turn.
It could be a diagnosis (or prognosis).
It could be a relationship change that you didn't see coming.
It could be a job offer that you didn't expect but requires some risk -- and promise.
It could be a betrayal by someone you counted on.
It could be anything…

And when we are faced with an unexpected right turn -- we have to adjust. It's hard to stay on the same path when an obstacle or opportunity has jumped in front of you.

That's the case with this quilt.  I posted here about making this (or possibly up to four!) quilts for a young couple who is well into the process of adopting one (or more) children from Ethiopia. They have been presented with a right turn. Apparently there is some support for stopping all Ethiopian adoptions due to the success of the program over the years. As I understand it, they are no longer in a crisis situation with so many children in need of parents. That is  a good thing in many ways. But it's a right turn for this young couple.
Besides the financial investment, there is great emotional investment that I can't even begin to imagine. I have no idea where this stands and what this means for them. My teeny-tiny right turn when I heard this was that I should just put this project away and wait. So, I finished the blocks and decided on the layout, and put all the blocks and fabrics away until more is known.

I suspect we have all had "right turns" in our quilting lives that makes us stop and think about fabric, color, process, and creating.

It could be a health condition that forces us to do things differently.
It could be a financial situation that requires us to sell some of our quilts, fabric, or change jobs.
It could be the birth of a baby that makes everything else secondary.
It could be a loss of mojo that just won't come back and our passion is gone.
It could be anything.

So I've had the smallest of right turns with this project while this couple is dealing with the largest of right turns and what it could mean to their family. I can wait and repurpose. They can only wait and begin to wonder and think about what if….

I hope your quilting right turns are small ones like this -- whatever they may be.



Beth in MN said...

I so feel for the disappointment the couple are feeling. Your quilt is wonderfully bright and fun. Hopefully the dreams of the couple come true and you are able to present it to them for the baby. It is amazing how life sometimes gives us a "turn."

Ramona said...

I said a prayer for this young couple and pray that they will know the feeling of being parents soon. Your quilt is gorgeous and hopefully it will be given to your friends when they are welcoming their new family member. It is true... life is full of twists and turns.

Lori said...

the righ turns can be heart wrenching.

Libby Smith said...

So thoughtful of you to include African prints in your blocks. I hope everything works out for your friends.

Rhonda said...

I, too, said a prayer for the couple.
Your post on "right turns" is so true.....we don't expect them and when we're forced to confront those turns, it's sometimes not easy, overwhelming, sad, joyous, life-altering, etc. Pray, friendship and love are welcome aids.
Thanks for sharing this thoughtful post!!

Sharon said...

Praying also. Your quilt is beautiful and I hope will be a cherished gift for this couple in the future. We have a young family at our church working through the steps of adoption for a downs syndrome baby boy.

Heidi [Banks of Frog Creek] said...

Joy and pain at the same time for them. Saying a prayer. For whenever they do get to grow their family, this quilt will be such a blessing - it is beautiful!

Ulla's Quilt World said...

So lovely! :)
Greetings from Finland!
Hugs, Ulla

Bonnie said...

The quilt will hold, the pain will abate, hopefully they will have the resources both financially and emotionally to pursue another adoption. Perhaps they need the quilt now as a visible and long lasting hug from you.

Lady of the Manor said...

Sending prayers for this couple. God must have other plans for them. I know they will be blessed! Your quilt is lovely!

Leanne Parsons said...

That must be so heartbreaking for them. I pray things will be sorted out quickly for them, with a positive outcome. Your quilt will be beautiful.

Anonymous said...

The quilt is beautiful. I hope you have reason to finish it soon.

Connie said...

This must be hard for them and yes, hold on to the quilt.....their time will come! Thanks for sharing.
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Marsha Cooper said...

I do hope it works out in their favor and that they do get to adopt after all.

Quilting Nonnie said...

Thank you so much for sharing this story and your insight. You are so right about big and small right turns. We have them in our lives and it helps to have friends to understand, listen and bolster us.